hazydaisydarling

hazydaisydarling:

littlejester:

hazydaisydarling:

littlejester:

hazydaisydarling:

“‘nymphet’ glorifies child abuse”, hunty please. There is no one here that wants to advocate pedophilia, rape, incest, etc. We simply enjoy child-like things and generally have a taste for older men. Do I need to sit down and explain why? I feel like it doesn’t take very many brain cells to put the pieces together. 

"Daddy" does not mean "Dad", as in one of your parents. It’s the same as "baby", it’s a term of endearment. Some people call their partner daddy, just like some call theirs baby. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH INCEST!!! Someone that calls their partner baby wouldn’t actually fuck their baby, just like someone that uses daddy wouldn’t fuck their dad. It’s about affection.

As a victim of sexual abuse and incest, I can confidently say that I’m in no way bothered by nymphets or ddlg. No one is trying to make pedophilia seem like a good thing, and the ones that seem to do it don’t understand what they are doing (that happens in every “community” though). 

And for Christ’s sake, stop using the term “survivor”. Us victims of rape don’t deserve to be put on a pedestal. We aren’t anything special. We just had something shitty happen to us, and by having the mentality that we deserve a special title won’t make anything better.

I agree with everything but the “survivor” thing. I don’t personally use it, I don’t use “victim” either, but if someone does it’s hardly my business, or anyone elses. If you think of yourself as a survivor, good for you.  Someone identifies with it, someone else doesn’t, I don’t see there to be anything more to the term. :)

Don’t worry about me being upset, you’re 100% entitled to that opinion. It’s not really a big deal, it just pisses me off and the atmosphere around the term seems to be people acting like they’re on some high horse for being raped.

I get where you’re coming from, I’ve witnessed that a few times myself. I feel like sometimes people also take the “victim” a little far by, kind of, welling in their grief. I understand that everyone copes with trauma in a different way but so many people stop living after such an event and I just find it sad. To me all it was ever about was survival and I just thought that I can’t keep crying over spilled milk, to put it bluntly. But again, that’s just my opinion :)

But, to me at least, it’s not about “survival” or being a victim. Rape victims (I use victim for lack of a better word) didn’t “survive” anything. It’s a shitty thing that happened to someone, and it’s up to you to learn how to deal with it and come to terms with it. I don’t think of it any deeper than just a poopy thing that happened. Yes, it does effect you and will for the rest of your life, but if you linger on it and try to over think it and make it out to be anything bigger than it is, it will destroy you (this goes for me, but I feel like it could for many people as well). I’m a strong believer in taking something bad that happened to you and using it to help other people and learning from it, and rape is a perfect thing to do that with. It’s better than sitting on your ass and throwing this “survivor” thing around on the internet, which is doing absolutely nothing for anyone. 

I agree that it’s a shitty thing that happened and that you just need to move on and as I said before, we all deal with it differently, with different terms and definitions etc :) To me, “survivor” worked better than “victim” but you’re right, neither of those words is really suitable.

hazydaisydarling

hazydaisydarling:

littlejester:

hazydaisydarling:

“‘nymphet’ glorifies child abuse”, hunty please. There is no one here that wants to advocate pedophilia, rape, incest, etc. We simply enjoy child-like things and generally have a taste for older men. Do I need to sit down and explain why? I feel like it doesn’t take very many brain cells to put the pieces together. 

"Daddy" does not mean "Dad", as in one of your parents. It’s the same as "baby", it’s a term of endearment. Some people call their partner daddy, just like some call theirs baby. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH INCEST!!! Someone that calls their partner baby wouldn’t actually fuck their baby, just like someone that uses daddy wouldn’t fuck their dad. It’s about affection.

As a victim of sexual abuse and incest, I can confidently say that I’m in no way bothered by nymphets or ddlg. No one is trying to make pedophilia seem like a good thing, and the ones that seem to do it don’t understand what they are doing (that happens in every “community” though). 

And for Christ’s sake, stop using the term “survivor”. Us victims of rape don’t deserve to be put on a pedestal. We aren’t anything special. We just had something shitty happen to us, and by having the mentality that we deserve a special title won’t make anything better.

I agree with everything but the “survivor” thing. I don’t personally use it, I don’t use “victim” either, but if someone does it’s hardly my business, or anyone elses. If you think of yourself as a survivor, good for you.  Someone identifies with it, someone else doesn’t, I don’t see there to be anything more to the term. :)

Don’t worry about me being upset, you’re 100% entitled to that opinion. It’s not really a big deal, it just pisses me off and the atmosphere around the term seems to be people acting like they’re on some high horse for being raped.

I get where you’re coming from, I’ve witnessed that a few times myself. I feel like sometimes people also take the “victim” a little far by, kind of, welling in their grief. I understand that everyone copes with trauma in a different way but so many people stop living after such an event and I just find it sad. To me all it was ever about was survival and I just thought that I can’t keep crying over spilled milk, to put it bluntly. But again, that’s just my opinion :)